The One In Barbados, part 2 - S9-E24
Revealing mistake: When Ross is talking to the weird obsessive scientist at the bar, just before the wife comes in, the wall behind the professor moves in shot to allow the cameraman room to swing around in the next shot. (00:40:20)
Answer: The statements that she's contradicting (that it is common, it happens to every guy, and it's not a big deal), are the things that a woman commonly says to a man who is suffering from erectile difficulty, typically to assuage his bruised ego. However, most men do not believe that these statements are true, as evidenced by Chandler's outburst. He's so caught up in the proof that women are lying about it that he gives himself away.
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