The One With Ross's Wedding, part 1 - S4-E23
Plot hole: The wedding is threatened because Ross, Emily, and Monica discover that the location has been torn down a few days early. However, when one plans an event, especially a wedding, one puts down a deposit to hold the location, signs a contract, and has all of that in writing. The church would not have allowed the tear-down to happen early as they'd be in breach of contract for accepting money and then allowing the church to be torn down before the wedding. And if they had broken the contract, Monica would have been screaming about it and demanding a refund.
Answer: The statements that she's contradicting (that it is common, it happens to every guy, and it's not a big deal), are the things that a woman commonly says to a man who is suffering from erectile difficulty, typically to assuage his bruised ego. However, most men do not believe that these statements are true, as evidenced by Chandler's outburst. He's so caught up in the proof that women are lying about it that he gives himself away.
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